Harder Family

Harder Family

Monday, March 28, 2022

Death of a Dream…Redefining the Dream

Proverbs 19:21 "Many are the plans in a person's heart, but it is the Lord's purpose that prevails."

Many of you know that I have been working hard to fulfill my bucket list of running a half marathon in every state. In January 2021, Wayne and I took a trip to California to pick up a used car that we purchased. On our trip home, I ran in New Mexico and Oklahoma. Unfortunately, at the end of my race in Oklahoma, I felt a pop in my foot and I was in a lot of pain. After many months of pain and many visits to doctors, I was finally diagnosed with a torn plantar fasciitis. The first doctors I saw mistreated me and I ended up in pain for a longer time. Finally, this past fall, I went to Bluegrass Orthopedics in Lexington and they put me in a cast for a month. After two more weeks in a boot, I started physical therapy to help me with my foot. During this therapy, they also used dry needling, which was not fun. It was during all of this treatment that my doctor recommended that I not run anymore. He said that since I had torn my plantar fasciitis, I was more likely to have it happen again. Since I was finally in a place where at least I could exercise after months of being side-lined, I decided that I would embrace the doctor's warning and take what I could. 

But what would I do about my almost finished bucket list? I mean I had 35 states done. I decided that since it was just for me, I would come up with a substitute. Walking the 13 miles was frowned against as well since it put the same kind of stress on my foot. In my research for alternatives, I came across a piece of equipment called an elliptigo. I was similar in the motion I use for running, but would take the pressure off of my foot. After talking it over with Wayne, we started looking for a used elliptigo. We found one at Play It Again Sports. The previous owner had purchased it and never used it. 

Today, I completed my “race” in Mississippi…36th state! I decided that I would take my average half marathon time and ride my elliptigo for that amount of time. So, I rode my elliptigo for 2 hours and 20 minutes, which resulted in a 24 mile ride. We rode along the beach from Gulfport to Biloxi. It was a beautiful ride. After completing my race, I tested my foot and it feels fine. I’m exhausted like I would be after a run, but my foot is not in pain. 

Sometimes life is that way, we plan one thing and it turns out another. When I started my bucket list 11 years ago, I never thought that I would end my races using an elliptigo vs running. But that is okay. The older I get, the more I realize that flexibility is a great attitude to have in life. Just because you have to modify your dream or what you had planned, doesn’t mean it is all over. Maybe you had a dream that you thought was over. My challenge to you is to not give up on your dream! It may look a little different then you planned, but never give up!

Wednesday, March 16, 2022

A Weekend of Hope

 2 Corinthians 1:3-5 "Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For as we share abundantly in Christ's sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too."

On March 4-7th our family was blessed to be gifted a trip with Inheritance of Hope (IOH) to Florida. IOH is like Make A Wish for parents with terminal illnesses that have children under the age of 18. Every step of the process was carefully thought out and implemented. You can tell that everyone in leadership and every volunteer put their entire heart and all their love into this weekend. Each one of us will forever remember our weekend with IOH and we have added people to our family.

Friday morning started out very early (3:30am). The first thing we had to do was take a COVID test so that we could travel on our trip. We quickly loaded the van and headed for the Lexington Airport. Once we arrived at the airport, I realized that I had forgotten to take a picture of our COVID tests. Thankfully, my parents were able to swing by my house and snap a picture and text it to me (thank you parents and technology). We flew from Lexington to Atlanta, where we had a three hour layover. We then boarded our plane and headed for Florida. When we left the terminal, we were greeted by our IOH team. They quickly introduced themselves and grabbed all of our bags because they wanted to make this weekend as easy on us as possible. 

The kids instantly bonded to Meghan and Brian, the two volunteers that were assigned to our family for the weekend. As we waited for our bus, we talked and played TACO CAT GOAT CHEESE PIZZA. Time flew and before we knew it, we were headed for our hotel, The Renaissance at Sea World. When we arrived, the team had our rooms lined up and had a gift bag that contained all of our shirts for the weekend, as well as masks, hand sanitizer, and many other little thoughtful gifts for the weekend. 

Brian and his wife Heidi


Sophia was excited to see Jensi again

We changed into clothes for our family photos and waited for Abigail's plane from Lynchburg to arrive with her. Once she arrived, we quickly headed to the garden for pictures. We just finished before the cutoff time. 

After the pictures were done, we headed upstairs to change into our shirts for the evening program. Our volunteers led us to a reception area outside, which was so beautiful. When we arrived, Mickey and Minnie were there to greet us. After eating delicious meal and warm welcome by the IOH team and Kendra Scott, they opened the dance floor. Not only was there dancing, there were games set up and also Kendra Scott set up a color bar where we were able to go pick out a piece of jewelry! I was so fortunate that when my turn arrived, Kendra Scott actually made my jewelry for me. She is so sweet and generous. Her team and business helped support IOH and this weekend retreat!

Caroline (left) - a volunteer from Dillards who hung out with us Friday night and all day Saturday. She's a new member of our extended family!

Color Bar - Kendra Scott jewelry customized to our choices

Sarah and Zorte, two of Kendra Scott's employees that hung out with us Friday night and all day Saturday. They are now members of our extended family!

Jill and Sarah (they both hung out with us Friday night and Saturday)

Monogramed bags filled with goodies for Disney the next day (sunscreen, spray fans, bandaids, hand sanitizer, etc). So thoughtful!

Kendra Scott making my necklace and earrings!

That evening as we were partying, Meghan took Micaela and Joella to the pool to swim. They had a blast!

The kids enjoyed playing many games with their friends. This is an intense game that is really fun...especially for competitive people.

Wayne and I fell asleep right at 10:00 since we were exhausted from such a long day of travel and we knew we had a long day up ahead at Disney. The next morning, we started our day off with an amazing breakfast at the hotel. The kids enjoying chasing anything they wanted for breakfast!

After breakfast, we all broke out into our separate groups for group time. Micaela and Joella were each in their own class. Micaela did great all alone and made friends quickly. Grace, Naomi, Shan Chen, and Sophia were all in the teenage group. Abigail met with the young adults. Wayne and I met with a group of parents including people diagnosed with breast cancer, brain cancer, and ALS. These group times helped the kids work through some trauma of having a parent with cancer. I have to admit in our group, it was hard at times not to start crying while people talked about what was going on in their lives.

After our group meetings, we all met up to catch a bus to Disney. IOH was so prepared and had lunches from Jason's Deli to eat on the bus. Our volunteers had backpacks filled with water, sunscreen, and anything else we may need at the park. As a mom, it was hard to rely on someone else, but it was also so relaxing to not have to worry about all the little details. IOH took care of everything so that we could just enjoy ourselves and make memories!

To make toting things around easier, each family had a wheelchair. Our kids loved taking turns sitting in the wheelchair to give their feet a break.

Big man in a tiny car. He had to drive from the passenger side since he didn't fit under the steering wheel! Tall people problems!

After a wonderful day at Disney, we headed back to the hotel for some much needed sleep. We got up the next morning and had group time again and then we headed off to Universal Studios. 

Once again, IOH was so proactive in maximizing our times at the park. Not only did we have lunch on the bus, they were able to get us special passes at each park so that we were able to bypass the lines. This enabled us to ride lots of rides (15 at Disney and 7 for me and Wayne at Universal, many more for the kids). The adults only stayed at Universal from 12-4:30. They then sent us back to the hotel for a parent's night out while the kids stayed at the park until closing with the volunteers.

Kid's night out...look at all of those kids!

When Wayne and I got back to the hotel, they separated the men and women and had surprises for us. We were told to pick out an outfit that Dillard's had provided and select a set of Kendra Scott jewelry. They then had makeup artists to do our makeup for our date night. It was so fun to be pampered!

We then had some pictures taken before we were whisked away to a special dinner. It was such an amazing time to be alone with Wayne and know that the kids were making memories with their friends.

On our last day in Florida, we all gathered in a large room to discuss the weekend. There was also a panel of people who had lost loved ones and shared what IOH had meant to them as a family. The biggest surprise was that our amazing volunteers, after getting back to the hotel around 11pm with all the kids, stayed up and made us a scrapbook of pictures from our trip. The love we received from our volunteers and all of the staff at IOH was unbelievable! 

None of us will ever forget our weekend with IOH! In fact, we now have many new additions to our extended family. I'm sure it is hard to comprehend thinking of "strangers" as family, but the unity that you feel in Christ, with those who believe, and also the shared suffering joins you together in ways other friendships cannot. If you are ever looking for an organization to support, I highly recommend Inheritance of Hope. The work they are doing is truly life changing!