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Harder Family

Thursday, April 20, 2023

God's Perfect Timing

Ecclesiastes 3:1-4 "For everything here is a session, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, a time to die...a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance."

Psalm 127:3-5 "Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate."

God's timing is always perfect! A couple years ago, I watched my friend, whose husband also had glioblastoma, make memories with her children. They had requested that they walk down the aisle with their dad and have it recorded. They wanted to have that available to them when they got married. Abigail and I watched the video and viewed all the photos, with many tears in our eyes. Abigail told me on that day that if something starts to change with Wayne, she wanted to do something like that as well. In December when Wayne had his huge seizure, which landed us in the hospital, it started churning ideas in my head. 

Wayne continued to have seizures, including the most severe one on February 14th. It was at this time that I asked Wayne if he would be open to making a special video with the girls. He was very open to the idea, and so I started hatching a plan. Once again, God's timing is perfect. I realized that both Abigail and Grace would be home at the same time for spring break. We decided to go ahead and make plans for that time.

So, on March 10th, our family was able to make a special memory with our kids. We cannot thank those who helped make this come to fruition enough! I was able to find the girls dresses on Amazon and we borrowed veils from people at church. Two very special people donated their time and talent to record the memories through photos and video. Although this day was one of the most emotional days, it held such beauty as well. Wayne was still strong enough to walk each of his daughters down the aisle. He wrote a special blessing for each one of them, which I know they will treasure for the rest of their lives. Each of our daughters selected a song to do their daddy-daughter dance.  

Somehow when I uploaded them, all the pictures went out of order.

Abigail danced to "Daddy" by Abby Anderson

Grace danced to "My Girl" by the Temptations

Naomi danced to "Cinderella" by Steven Curtis Chapman

Micaela danced to "Always Be Your Baby" by Natalie Grant

Joella danced to "Daddy's Hands" by Holly Dunn

Sophia didn't want anything serious, so she chose "Macarena" by Los Del Rio

A group of women from church made each girl a special bouquet and they made Shan a boutonniere, which made him so proud.

These bouquets are actually cupcakes, which were donated by a very generous baker in town.

Each girl came through the door when Wayne's back was turned and then they surprised him.

My sharp looking men!

Our beautiful daughters!

Abigail wore my wedding dress.

Getting their hair done. Someone donated this service as well to our family. Too many people to thank!

We are so thankful for Amy for leading the way with her family and inspiring us with this idea. We are also thankful for Inheritance of Hope, which taught us to make lasting memories with our children. I know this day will forever be impressed on my heart and mind, and I know it will be for the girls as well as Shan. It is even more precious because this was done March 10th, just two weeks before we would find out that Wayne's cancer was back with a vengeance. We are so glad that we took the time to make these special memories. No matter what happens, the kids will have this available to them to use in the future if they need it. Our prayer of course is that Wayne will be here to walk them down the aisle himself, but if God decides to answer our prayers differently, we have given the girls a precious gift to treasure in the future.

I don't have the video yet, but I will share that in the future when I have it, or at least clips from it. Thank you again to each one who donated their time, energy and love on this special day for our kids!!

If you missed my update on Wayne, here is the update from yesterday.

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